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The future depends onwhat you do in the present
African American Couple

Nila Epstein

Relational Therapy

"Love never dies a natural death. 
It dies because we don't know how to replenish its source. 
It dies of blindness and errors and betrayals.  
It dies of illness and wounds; it dies of weariness, of witherings, of tarnishings"  
Anais Nin   

For most of us, relationships alternately and sometimes simultaneously provide the greatest  joy, validation, stability and satisfaction in our lives, as well as the greatest pain, reactivity, longing and regret.
When important relationships are working smoothly, we have more energy to devote to careers, hobbies, family and neighbors, making money, and contributing to our communities.  As relationships grow apart, or take unreasonable amounts of time and energy to maintain, all other aspects of our life, including our physical health, can suffer. 

When painful emotions become predominant in a relationship (with spouse, significant other, best friend, parent, child, sibling or business partner), it is time to get support and a new perspective.  Relationship therapy is designed to provide both.  A neutral but friendly and respectful listener can offer what sometimes friends and family members cannot: a safe, non-judgmental presence that helps you make sense of it all, so that you can move forward again.

My counseling practice in Tigard, Oregon, serving all of the Portland metro area, has a focus on improving relationships of all kinds.   I see traditional, as well as non-traditional couples, families and individualsMy style is interactive and collaborative with acceptance, humor and compassion as the foundation for the therapy.

My  job is  knowing how to customize an approach from a menu of complimentary methods and techniques for the client at hand. This includes being an active listener who is able to:  

  • Recognize and articulate patterns (of strength and of self-sabotage) in your thinking, behavior, reactions and emotional triggers

  • Provide fresh perspective and alternative options

  • Draw out what is important to you and authentic in you 
  • Bring meaning to your emotional world....what are your triggers, hopes, dreams, fears?

My objective is to be the facilitator of your process to reach your goals. I especially like to work with couples at all stages (premarital or long term, separating or divorcing, recovering from divorce, coparenting and issues pertinent to stepcouples).  For those interested, I use the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI),  an assessment that helps people understand themselves and also appreciate and understand their partners.

Additionally, my practice includes family therapy with step families, adult sibling groups, parents and adult children, parents and school aged children, young people in the launching stage, people in transition and the facilitation of family meetings.

Counseling is $115 (for credit or Paypal; $110 for cash or check) for Individual  60 minute sessions.
Couples and Family Counseling is $125 (for credit or Paypal; $110 for cash or check) for 60" sessions.  Intake sessions for Couples and Families are 90" and are charged at $175 (for credit or Paypal; $170 for cash or check).
Adult Family Groups consisting of more than 3 adults for minimum 90" sessions are charged at $200 (for credit or Paypal; $190 for cash or check).
Payment is due at session, in cash or check, or credit.  Paypal can be used prior to the session.

Evening appointments and 90 minute appointments available by request.  

Call me at 503-620-3302 x5 if you are motivated for counseling, but are experiencing financial stress. I like to work with motivated people, and will seek to come to agreement on a fee based on your current financial circumstances.

If you initiate contact with me via this website, please address your inquiry specifically to me by name, as this is a shared website. You may also contact me directly at

LGBT savvy and welcoming; all non-conventional individuals or families welcome. (Inter-faith, Inter-cultural/race, polyamorous)

Education and Training:

  • MS: Education: Counseling, PSU, Portland, OR (Requirements met for both Community Counseling and Marriage and Family Therapy programs)

  • BA: Psychology, Occidental College, Los Angeles, CA

  • Addiction training sufficient to acquire and maintain a Certified Alcohol and Drug Counselor (CADC 1) license (# 04-03-14) from May 2004-May 2012

  •  Training and requirements met to be listed on Oregon Board of Licensed Professional Counselors and Therapists' Registry of Supervisors

    Additional advanced couples and family training with David Freeman, John Gottman, Terry Real, Sue Johnson;  Neuro-psychology with Dan Siegel and Bonnie Badenoch; Mindfulness training for therapists under Jack Kornfield.


  • Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, T0400 

  • Licensed Professional Counselor, C1380

 Professional Organizations and Affiliations:

  • Clinical Member, American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (AAMFT)

  • Member, Oregon Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (OAMFT)

 Professional Activities: 

  • Volunteer seat on the Oregon Board of Licensed Professional  Counselors and Therapists, a position appointed by the Governor from June 2009-June 2012

  • Clinical supervisor for candidates for LPC and LMFT licenses

  • Clinical supervisor/trainer at William Temple House for graduate interns in counseling and marriage and family therapy. 

  • Facilitator for Group Therapy Class, George Fox University, spring semester 2011.

  • Adjunct Professor, PSU, 2004 for Advanced Couples Therapy 

I love my work!  Give me a call to see if we are a good fit!